Integrative Mindful Exposure – Emotional Surfing 1

Just as it is senseless to attempt to surf against a wave,fighting against the stream of emotions would be equally futile. So it only makes sense to surf with the wave and let nature take its course. I have developed a technique which I term Emotional Surfing which incorporates critical elements of mindfulness and behavioral exposure. In this technique we are asked to mindfully view and label potentially uncomfortable mental images, feeling states, memories and thoughts. Guided by behavioral learning principles, we are encouraged to hold these mental cues in our attention for sufficient time to allow some degree of habituation and extinction to occur. Also, memory and other associational reactivations will occur following principles of “evaporation and transpiration” that I will discuss in a future post.

One is asked to close their eyes and bring their attention to a difficult emotion, memory, image, or whatever it is that is a contemporary source of pain that they tend to bury, repress, avoid or otherwise control. It is also very critical to try to identify a physical point of emanation from which the emotion resonates. So, in other words, someone might identify as they focus on a difficult feeling, sensations arising from their abdomen, or solar plexus, throat area and so on. Most typically, feelings arise out of specific energy centers or “chakras” as they are known in the east. As the individual continues to focus on the emotion/image/memory and the associated bodily area, they will see that often quite quickly, the quality of each changes. So, for example if one is experiencing fear or anxiety in their chest, it will quickly and spontaneously morph into another feeling and bodily location. Feelings of anger may well up, or helplesness, shame or any one of a host of feelings and accompanying images and memories may surface with accompanying resonating physical sensations.

The key elements of emotional surfing are fourfold:

1) focus upon and hold a painful image, memory, thought or feeling.

2) label as specifically as possible the feeling(s) that arise.

3) take note and hold your attention at the bodily area from where the present feelings emanate.

4) pay carefull attention to how the emotions, images, and physical sensations change and move as you maintain focus.

Caution – Not everyone can do this on their own. Some may require the perceived safety and support of doing this in a therapeutic context. If one has a history of psychotic symptoms or has difficulty at times differentiating their internal reality, from external reality, than guidance and supervision may be advisable.

As individuals practice this techniques they will witness that can more easily “let go” and watch as nature takes its course. The point of this exercise is not to put an end to emotional pain. Pain is an inherent part of life. Suffering arises as a function of our resistance to pain. The idea is to be able to relinquish our control endeavors, so that we can move with our pain, and gain acceptance of wherever we are without effort or resistance. We can quickly come to learn that it is not dangerous to experience any part of ourselves.We learn that like the tides, feelings come and go of their own accord. And by riding with them, we can tap the special power, and knowledge that they can bestow.

In the next blog, I will provide an example of Emotional Surfing drawing from a case sample.

Please leave comments to this and other  blogs so that this can become a richer experience for all. You can also contact me privately if you have questions or comments that you’d prefer not to disclose publicly.

Happy surfing!



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  • Your work sounds captivating!
    In my studies / work / experience, I have found that all feelings are a physiological reaction to your thoughts. If one can change how they think, they automatically change how they feel. I have had many clients come to me stating that they are full of Anxiety. After hearing why they think that they feel anxious, I give them a box and tell them to go out and find me as much anxiety as they can, put it in this box and bring it back to me, and we’d sort it out. So far, all that’s come back is empty boxes. Anxiety doesn’t exist, only people thinking anxious thoughts. Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.
    Hope to read your book soon.


  • mm
    September 29, 2012 10:36 am

    I love your empty box exercise! You are absolutely right; at the most intrinsic level we are not defined by our transitory feelings. However, it is through mindful attention to our feelings that we can gain some objective distance from our feelings and so come to recognize this truism. Otherwise, we are doomed to act-out, act-in and engage in a perpetual war of control which will invariably contribute to suffering. Though I was initially trained in cognitive strategies to address our maladaptive thoughts and beliefs which impact our emotional and physiological responses, over time, I came to realize that if you want to cut down a tree, it is much more effective to cut through the trunk than to clip the branches if you follow my somewhat deranged metaphor. In other words, it is our emotions and the drive impetus that they bestow that motivates our actions. We evolved from the bottom up rather from the top down. Though we would love to believe in the supremacy of our rational mind, I believe that this is largely a fallacy as human history reveals. By directing our attention at the primeval source of our experience (e.g., emotions), we can come to terms with our humanity and find peace and equanimity. Thank you so much for your thoughtful post.

  • […] The most important aspect of breaking patterns of avoidance and procrastination is the ability to identify, label and mindfully view and expose the difficult feelings associated with or elicited by the task at hand. And so one is urged to label the emotions that is conjured by the thought of commencing a given task. Then, one should meditatively sit with those feelings. Let them wash through you without comment or analysis. Label the fear, dread, helplessness, annoyance or whatever feelings arise. Pay close attention to the physical sensations and areas of the body that resonate with the feelings. Let whatever happens happen! As the process unfolds, you will bear witness to a dynamic unfolding of experiences. Other emotions, images, thoughts and memories will surface. Let them come and wash away on their own. Various feelings and sensations will ebb and flow. For those who have been following this blog, you will readily recognize this as Emotional Surfing. For a review, please refer to a previous post on this topic ; […]

  • Thank you for sharing this. I’m a psychology student and have been trying to find something exactly like this to assist with cognitive theory.

  • mm
    May 28, 2013 7:48 am

    I’m glad this can help in some small way Katherine.


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